Thursday, February 7, 2013

Not for Dexter but for Debra.

So who are Dexter and Debra? They are the siblings from the hot shot super hit show named Dexter. This show has completed 7 seasons and had started way back in 2005. But we (i.e Dexter and me) kind of met quite recently, i.e. last year and since then, we (i.e the series and me :-)) are glued. I confess I have an addiction, a dark passenger (you would only get this, if you watch the series). I have to watch at least one episode(2 would be a bonus night) per night while I am having my dinner. I begin to agitate and display symptoms of a addict if that doesn't happen. I am into the 6th season, and I am terrified now. Soon I will be into the 7th, and once that's done, what do I watch! Yeah Dexter is coming back for season 8, but the rumor is that, that's going to be the last. Gosh hell No Please!

Al rite, so the post is really not about Dexter or my addiction. The post is entirely and truly dedicated to Debra Morgan.
I L O V E that woman.

Debra Morgan:
She is Dexter's younger sister. She was a detective and is now a lieutenant with the Miami Metro Police force and she is sincerely, sincerely (am thinking how much more can I stress on the sincerely, but I hope you get the point) addicted to her work. Ultra thin and tall, she comes across as a strong woman, always in stripe shirts and trousers and in a total de glam look, she is beautiful. But the most important thing that I like about her, is that she is NORMAL girl, so normal that it feels she has actually lived my life!

Season 1:
She is of course crazy about her job and very good at it, but is naive and kind of immature. She totally believes in the concept of love and wants the flowers and out of the world proposals. She is not possessive, but tends to be clingy, and expects all the love in return, which she easily gives. She is dependant on her man, and eventually the man uses her and (forget about breaking her heart) tries to kill her! Debra is ashamed beyond shock and is terribly embarrassed and is completely broken.

This immature quality to cling and expect and love unconditionally, even if it hurts your self respect/confidence, because you know its for the love of your life, and then really be rooted out of your belief, is a feeling that I am not alien too. And I know a lot of other woman, who are not too. It eventually leads to insecurity and low self esteem, and one starts feeling dejected, depressed and useless.

Season 2:
Debra starts questioning her beliefs about love and relationships, and goes into some serious depression. The only way she ventures out of that, is by working out, and working out hard.
This way to come out of it, amazes me. I also went (or rather I am in) that phase of excessive working out and excessive obsession with the weight(well Debra doesn't have the obsession, because she already was so thin in Season 1). The excessiveness actually directs all your pent up anger and energy into something useful and generates this great levels of positivity. The feeling when people comment about your weight, and the feeling when you get into sizes smaller than you normally wear,believe me, is a lot better than having to get flowers and chocolates and calls from that guy :-)

Season 3-4-5 : One thing I totally love about the series is that it is terribly real. I know I said that before, but I cant help reiterate. Real not because of Dexter, but because of Debra. Her reactions to situations, her anger, her moods swings. I really get that and I feel for her. Its almost as if I am saying to her, 'Girl I know what that feels like'! Because really its not a goody goody life, but its actually (in Debra's words) 'A f___king life'.
In these seasons, her motto is just work work and more work. She of course falls in love again to lose her loved one again(but this time because her lover dies due to a criminal), she falls cautiously and only when she the other person reciprocates. In Season 5, she is the one putting off her man, so very opposite of what she was in season 1. See how she has evolved, and just because experience is the best teacher. That pain and agony in season one, well yeah she doesn't want to go through that again. No man is worth that. And I am again smiling because, I have learnt it the hard way too. No more clingy, no more desperate calls from me. Give space and then you get space. Lets things take time and fall in their place when they want to. And when you do, you get all that in return which you always wanted.

In these seasons, she also faces some serious hardships from her boss(yeah again its a hard life) and she overcomes that to become a lieutenant. Because if you are sincere, you get the job done. Well people who have been interacting with me lately, know about my job scene, and really its not all that different! So whoa again I see what she does, and I do that. Move on, but still do your job!

Well in season 6, she becomes the boss, and I have finished like just 5 episodes, so it would be too soon to comment about her love/professional life, but what I have seen she has grown AGAIN. She learns and grows, and never repeats those mistakes again. Yeah she admits those faults, but moves on, importantly moves ahead always. And this is what I like the best about her and this is what draws me, the most to her. Yes she is human, yes she is a somewhere a sweet little girl, yes she has her flaws but yes she is strong and resolute. If you thought she was stupid in seasons before, you would be forced to change your opinion, you would be now forced to respect her.
Guys, Watch Dexter not for Dexter but for Debra!

And look, she too has this weird obsession of cutting her long hair very short, to growing it again! Are the similarities going to end now. Oh I forgot, I don't look like her at all.. sigh :-(

All Images from Google.